How to look after my own health while caring?

I spend my days caring for my husband and I can't even remember the last time I went to the doctor for myself. I'm always tired, in pain, and putting off everything that's for me. How can I look after my health when I have no time or energy?

Recognising that you are neglecting yourself is already an important step. It's not selfish to look after yourself: if you get ill, who will care for your husband? Your health is part of his care.

Why it happens

Caring is a physical and emotional marathon. Fatigue, continuous stress, and lack of time lead many carers to postpone appointments, sleep poorly, eat haphazardly, and ignore symptoms. Over time, this takes a toll on their own health.

Practical strategies

• Book and don't miss your appointments and examinations, including with your GP.
• Protect your sleep and diet, even with simple but regular meals.
• Incorporate movement into your day, even if it's short walks.
• Ask for and accept help: family members, home support, or a day centre can free up time.
• Monitor for signs of burnout: irritability, persistent sadness, exhaustion.

What NOT to do

• Don't normalise your own aches or symptoms as "it's nothing".
• Don't wait until you collapse to ask for support.

When to seek professional help

Consult your GP for an assessment and for support if you feel exhausted or depressed. Social Security (300 502 502) provides information on the Informal Carer Status and support, and the SNS 24 Line (808 24 24 24) clarifies health queries.

"I only went to the doctor when I could barely stand. I learned that looking after myself is looking after him." — Anonymous Carer