What is Alzheimer's disease?

My father has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and I'm devastated. I know the name, everyone does, but I can't really explain what it is or what will happen. Can you help me understand?

Receiving this diagnosis is unsettling for anyone, even if you've known the name for years. Allow yourself to feel what you're feeling; wanting to understand is already an act of love for your father.

Why it happens

Alzheimer's disease is the most common cause of dementia. It is a progressive brain disease where nerve cells are affected over time. It usually starts with recent memory — forgetting conversations or events of the day — and then progresses to language, orientation, and independence.

Practical strategies

• Focus on the present: value what your father can still do.
• Maintain stable routines, which provide security.
• Use short, simple sentences when communicating.
• Learn about the stages to anticipate needs without living in fear of the future.
• Seek support early, for both of you.

What NOT to do

• Do not repeatedly correct or argue about memory lapses.
• Do not assume everything will change overnight: the progression is usually gradual.

When to seek professional help

Follow-up with neurology, psychiatry, or geriatrics is important, as there are medications that can help with some symptoms. Keep your GP informed. Alzheimer's Society has support groups and helplines for families.

"At first, I only thought about the end. Slowly, I learned to live each good day as a gift. There are still many." — Anonymous Carer