The person goes out alone and doesn't know how to get back. What measures should I take?

My husband has gone out alone twice and we found him disoriented a few blocks from home. I'm terrified just thinking he could get lost or be hit by a car. What can I do to protect him without confining him to the house?

What you describe is frightening, and it's natural to feel that terror. Knowing that the person we love could go out and disappear is one of the heaviest anxieties for carers. There's a lot you can do to reduce this risk.

Why it happens

In the moderate stage, it's common for the person to want to "go home", look for someone from the past, or follow an old routine (go to work, pick up children). They leave with a purpose that makes sense to them, but then become disoriented and don't know how to return.

Practical strategies

• Place a GPS tracker (watch, bracelet, or in footwear) and a card in their pocket with their name and contact details.
• Install locks or alarm bells on doors and gates, placed out of their usual line of sight.
• Inform neighbours, local shops, and the concierge to contact you if they see him alone.
• Have a recent photo and a description of the day's clothing to give to the authorities if necessary.
• Offer regular accompanied walks to satisfy their need to move around.

What NOT to do

• Do not scold or argue when he insists on going out; distract and redirect calmly.
• Do not completely restrict movement; inactivity increases agitation.

When to seek professional help

If they disappear, immediately call 999. Speak to your GP and Alzheimer's Society about adapted strategies and trackers.

"I put a GPS in his watch and told the corner shop. I slept better knowing that if he went out, I would know where he was." — Anonymous Carer