Should I stop working to provide care?
My mother has recently started showing signs of dementia, and I already need to accompany her to appointments and be attentive. I'm thinking about whether I should quit my job to care for her properly, but I'm afraid of the consequences. What should I consider in this decision?
Considering giving up everything to care for your mother shows immense dedication, but it's a decision that deserves careful thought and information, so you don't harm yourself in the long run. It's good that you're reflecting before acting.
Why it happens
In the initial phase, the instinct is to be fully present. However, leaving work has financial implications, impacts your future pension, and affects your own well-being, and dementia is a long journey. It's not always necessary to choose between work and care.
Practical strategies
- Before deciding, explore alternatives: home care, day centre, family help.
- Find out about the Informal Carer Status and Social Security support.
- Check employment rights: leave for family assistance, flexibility, teleworking.
- Calculate the financial and pension impact before making any irreversible decision.
- Distribute tasks among family members, so it doesn't all fall on you.
What NOT to do
- Do not resign precipitously, still under the initial impact of the diagnosis.
- Do not assume care alone without first exhausting available support.
When to seek professional help
Contact Social Security (300 502 502) about the Informal Carer Status and possible support. Your GP can help anticipate the progression, and a support group can offer perspective on this decision.
"I was going to resign the day after the diagnosis. A social worker sat me down and showed me support I didn't even know existed. I managed to reconcile for two more years, and I'm grateful for it today." — Anonymous Carer