Is it worth going to a support group for carers?

A friend suggested I go to a carer support group, but I'm embarrassed to share my life and I'm not sure if it's actually helpful. Is it really worth the time and effort?

It's natural to hesitate. Sharing our lives with strangers can be daunting, and time is already scarce. But many carers later say: "I only regret not going sooner." Feeling understood by those who are going through the same thing has immense value.

Why it happens

Caring for someone with dementia can be isolating. Friends and family often don't understand the daily strain. A support group brings together people who are experiencing exactly the same thing, without judgment, and where their most difficult emotions are normalised.

Practical strategies

• Look for groups from Alzheimer's Society, in-person or online, in various areas across the country.
• Start by just listening — you're not obliged to share anything straight away.
• If travel is difficult, look for online or video call groups.
• Take the opportunity to exchange contacts and practical daily tips.

What NOT to do

• Don't give up after a single session if you don't connect — try another group.
• Don't view the group as a substitute for medical or psychological support.

When to seek professional help

If you feel profound exhaustion, anxiety, or persistent sadness, the group is a good start, but also speak to your GP. Alzheimer's Society and Social Services (111) can recommend resources near you.

"I thought I'd cry the whole time. In the end, I laughed and felt for the first time that I wasn't alone." — Anonymous Carer